tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post3653462324686793339..comments2023-11-03T00:29:11.690-07:00Comments on I Pee In The Wind: I am homophobicTentCamperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00911767583033104298noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-71499940653916323162008-08-26T08:13:00.000-07:002008-08-26T08:13:00.000-07:00That is horrible and surely something you don't wa...That is horrible and surely something you don't want to be reminded of. I can understand why seeing a gay man reminds you of that incident and causes a problem for you.<BR/><BR/>It's ok for you to feel however you feel. You are entitled.<BR/><BR/>Although, I do know a few gay men who will tell you there are psycho straight men too, that it has nothing to do with orientation. You already know that though. <BR/><BR/>If you haven't yet... don't watch Brokeback Mountain.Maddnessofmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03382752795575843384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-38738186218427598042008-08-25T13:56:00.000-07:002008-08-25T13:56:00.000-07:00Chiming in to say that it is, truly, brave of you ...Chiming in to say that it is, truly, brave of you to share with us what happened to you. Sexual assault carries such a stigma for the victim, and I imagine that it's perhaps magnifide ten-fold for a man who has endured such a thing. Thank you for sharing.for a different kind of girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04431273646365489225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-38705527725010987242008-08-25T10:06:00.000-07:002008-08-25T10:06:00.000-07:00Yes, you are brave for sharing that, and for filin...Yes, you are brave for sharing that, and for filing a police report..that's unusual..but you did all of society a favor.<BR/><BR/>And, I can totally see the correlation in your head.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-63822322408305943462008-08-24T09:06:00.000-07:002008-08-24T09:06:00.000-07:00I guess i shouldve read the rest of your post. (Im...I guess i shouldve read the rest of your post. (Im not suppose to be reading posts, just looking up the weather!) I am so sorry you had to endure something like that, why are people are cruel? I hope what goes around, comes around for that thug.Mom2FiveBratzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15517091699073793924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-68987862722173405802008-08-24T09:04:00.000-07:002008-08-24T09:04:00.000-07:00My husband is homophobic too. Our youngest son is ...My husband is homophobic too. Our youngest son is so sensitive, and caring, and well..pretty enough to be a girl, I keep saying he could grow up to be gay, and thats totally okay with me. My husband turns into the excorcist when I say such things, so now I say it just to see his head spin. :)Mom2FiveBratzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15517091699073793924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-22928185813655729072008-08-24T07:04:00.000-07:002008-08-24T07:04:00.000-07:00What happened is awful. I agree with the others, v...What happened is awful. I agree with the others, very brave of you to get the story out there. <BR/>I most certainly understand your agitation.Pleasing Procrasinatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14660336513081435336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-55371881238591815212008-08-23T23:42:00.000-07:002008-08-23T23:42:00.000-07:00Wow, I am used to coming here for humor and levity...Wow, I am used to coming here for humor and levity! Bravo for being brave and exposing yourself. I hope that time and positive experiences with gay men will help you to overcome the negative association. As for overcoming the effects of the assault, well, I guess I am fortunate enough to say that I cannot really offer advice there. Unfortunately, there are many out there who can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-405157886343062002008-08-22T20:02:00.000-07:002008-08-22T20:02:00.000-07:00Wow. Well, the amazing thing about you, TC, is tha...Wow. Well, the amazing thing about you, TC, is that you aren't afraid to be who you are. No matter how it looks to anyone. I enjoy that you will admit perceived 'faults', realize how you got there, understand that you can change but maybe just aren't there yet, and accept yourself completely, as is, in this moment in time. That is HUGE and your acceptance of yourself will be the one thing that will help you to heal and grow. You, and only you, can decide if the things that happen in your life will define you or define who you wish to be. You are an inspiration because, even though you could, you don't seem to define yourself as a victim. Continue to look ahead, my friend. Your life is getting better and better as you face and release your past. Love ya!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-52235101970178980522008-08-22T17:50:00.000-07:002008-08-22T17:50:00.000-07:00Thanks for this post. I'm sure it was tough to rev...Thanks for this post. I'm sure it was tough to reveal why you get triggered. So often those of us who have been raped try to put what happened behind us and not think about it, but that sort of violation isn't so easily buried and tends to pop up despite our wish that it leave us alone.Marcella Chesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00131036408163541788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-4774643552427197312008-08-22T16:47:00.000-07:002008-08-22T16:47:00.000-07:00Tentcamper - Without saying anything else, just kn...Tentcamper - Without saying anything else, just know that twenty years later, I am still petrified of men with beards.Gucci Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098520618133302969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-68741509628085963842008-08-22T16:46:00.000-07:002008-08-22T16:46:00.000-07:00I'm sorry that happened to you. Nobody should have...I'm sorry that happened to you. Nobody should have to go through that..<BR/><BR/>Talking about it helps. It will take time though. It's something that you never forget, but you can get to a place where it no longer defines who you are. Sounds like you are well on the way.<BR/><BR/>Re your feelings towards gay men. I can understand that. There was a time when I felt very much the same way towards men, bec ause of what happened to me. There was a time when I realised that not ALL men were rapists/sexual abusers/violent and that all men were not resposible for one a few men had done to me. It helped a lot, in moving me from the place where I was a victim, to where I was a survivor, by putting the blame squarely where it belonged ... with those that had abused me and not with everybody that happened to possess a penis...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17109531002159599556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-62821362363553059002008-08-22T16:17:00.000-07:002008-08-22T16:17:00.000-07:00Thank you all for the comments so far. Itis hard ...Thank you all for the comments so far. Itis hard and hard to write about...which is why there was no detail...yet.<BR/><BR/>I do and have had gay friends, but it just takes me kowing them before I can get the other shit out of my head.TentCamperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00911767583033104298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-14278201496491911882008-08-22T15:38:00.000-07:002008-08-22T15:38:00.000-07:00Oh,man, Chris, that's just awful and horrible. I ...Oh,man, Chris, that's just awful and horrible. I can't believe that happened to you. :o(<BR/><BR/>I can understand where you would have trouble with gay men after this. I probably would too. :o(Rheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11027061380778030388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-48208953065626561402008-08-22T15:05:00.000-07:002008-08-22T15:05:00.000-07:00Just found you through my blog... thanks for the g...Just found you through my blog... thanks for the great comment there. I agree with the other readers here: this is a very brave, courageous post. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-53614425229329890792008-08-22T14:50:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:50:00.000-07:00Wow.That's all I can muster.Wow.<BR/><BR/>That's all I can muster.Jasper Mockingbardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04154313019904980881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-16550139031180015262008-08-22T14:42:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:42:00.000-07:00I am sorry this happened to you Chris!! What a si...I am sorry this happened to you Chris!! What a sick and ugly world it can be!The Mom Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14013214017240987993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-50720916518612393862008-08-22T14:01:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:01:00.000-07:00Holy shit- i think I would be homophobic, knifepho...Holy shit- i think I would be homophobic, knifephobic and bostonphobic if this had happened to me.<BR/><BR/>You got guts dude.Swirl Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18241915723936809627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-47887541328940935662008-08-22T13:57:00.000-07:002008-08-22T13:57:00.000-07:00I think when anyone has been the victim of a serio...I think when anyone has been the victim of a serious assault it is hard for them to deal with, but I think for a man, I can only imagine it is somewhat harder. Glad that you felt you could talk about this here, and I think your feelings towards gay men are somewhat natural as far as most straight men are concerned. Hopefully one day you will reach a point where it simply doesn't bother you anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-88260363301183011872008-08-22T13:50:00.000-07:002008-08-22T13:50:00.000-07:00Bravo to you for putting yourself out there and sh...Bravo to you for putting yourself out there and sharing what happened to you with all of us. It is such a difficult thing to talk about, and I know it must have been difficult for you.<BR/>I think that writing about your attack and working through the feelings it caused will help you on the road to healing, and it will also help fellow victims of sexual abuse/assault. <BR/>Excellent post, my friend. God bless.Gucci Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098520618133302969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-27394738649647985022008-08-22T13:23:00.000-07:002008-08-22T13:23:00.000-07:00I also think you are incredibly brave to tell this...I also think you are incredibly brave to tell this story. Being sexually assaulted is very hard to talk about. It gets easier to talk about and you do get past it - never over it, but past it.<BR/>Thanks for sharing that Chris.Debzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06782022114303206069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8370963538412640936.post-58095222376468362012008-08-22T13:10:00.000-07:002008-08-22T13:10:00.000-07:00Baby- you are so brave to throw this out there, yo...Baby- you are so brave to throw this out there, you are so brave to be honest with your thoughts.<BR/>I think this was beautifully written.<BR/>Me<BR/>ps I love youInsane Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13772208953959596713noreply@blogger.com