Friday, July 11, 2008

Double Update

This, my dear friends, is, I’m sure going to shock you. I am going to write TWO, SHORT, updates in one post. Now mind you, this is something that I’ve never tried before…and I urge you not to try this at home…unless I am successful – then everyone should do it.

Crap, off–base again. Sorry.

Ok, the first topic of my double-header is my birthmother. Now most of you know the situation, but if not please catch up on all seven posts.
1. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/vomit-call.html
2. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/vomit-call-continued.html
3. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/nothing-like-little-monday-morning.html
4. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/meeting-my-birth-mother-for-first-time.html
5. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/meeting-my-birth-mother-part-2-0f-2.html
6. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/no-matter-how-brief.html
7. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/07/abandoned-for-second-time.html

Now, I took all of your advice and sent her another email on Tuesday the 8th ….and have yet to receive any reply. I have talked with Insane Mama about it and at first she reiterated some of the things that you guys said; maybe she is digesting, maybe she needs some time, maybe she is dealing with other important things, etc. I understand that…BUT…If you reunite with your birth child and then you get (not one but) two emails from him…wouldn’t you at least reply with something like, “I need a bit of time …I will contact you when I can.” Or something like that. The NO RESPONSE is what is killing me…not the does she want to stay in contact stuff. I can deal with rejection…it is the being ignored part that hurts.


The second subject of this post is my step father. I wanted (and wanted to give you) an update on my stepfather’s progress after his operations (see below prior posts if you came to this party late)
1. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/06/dad-number-3-not-natural-or.html
2. http://ipitw.blogspot.com/2008/07/dad-number-3-update.html

Now I have called two days in a row to get an update and have not gotten any response. What the fuck? Now both mothers are dissing me?

I will give you an update as soon as I get one.

7 Comments:

Mamahut said...

Poor Tenter, be patient. Are you sure your real mom checks her email all the time? I do feel for ya tho. Waiting is the worst thing in the universe.

Teri said...

Do something fun this weekend with IM and try (yeah, that's sounds so easy, I know) to think of just the two of you. And I hope you hear soon from everyone. I'm sending good thoughts for your step(bonus)dad, too.

~Billie~ said...

Oh man, the anxiety would kill me! I have never contacted my birth father out of fear of rejection. Maybe I am not the best person for advice. LOL! I don't think she is being very thoughtful at all.

I would not feel dissed by your Mom#2. She is probably just really stressed out about your step dad. If my husband was sick I would probably not think of anything else.

Neurotically Yours: said...

I'm sorry about your birth mom. I would suggest waiting a few more days and then work on closure like you said before.

I don't know how someone can have a child in this world and not want to be a part of their life. My birth dad still talks to my Mom's family, yet he does not try to be in my life at all. My thought is it's HIS loss and it will be HER loss, too! You did your part :)

Now, about your Stepdad, that confuses me. I have no advice for that one. Sorry! I hope it all works out for you!

TentCamper said...

I know you guys. I will give it a few more days. I just can't help but to think the worst.
@Mamahut - I know people do not always check email all the ime...but after a meeting like this??????? you'd think one would.

Rhea said...

Sheesh, you poor child. I can't believe you're being dissed by both moms. Thank goodness you have the scary, boob-hairy Insane Mama to comfort you. :o)

No, seriously, I bet no news is good news about your stepfather, and as for your birth mother, she's obviously messed up still and missing out on a great thing.

TentCamper said...

OK...Wel I spoke with my step father today and his recovery is goin very well....slow but well.

 

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